How do you know person A felt “entitled” to someone’s affections? Because when that person isn’t interested, person A feels anger. If you weren’t expecting or assuming something fundamentally then you won’t feel anger. Just disappointment and maybe lowered self-esteem. I only feel angry when I don’t get something that *I felt I had a right to.* If I enter a contest and don’t win I don’t feel angry. If I apply for a job that 100 other people applied to and don’t get it, I don’t feel angry. If I am denied something that I have paid for or am contractually owed, I feel angry. Anger is the hint that you were feeling you already had a right to something. Women generally don’t feel anger in the face of rejection. We may feel sad, embarrassed, unattractive, or philosophical.

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