I’ve always found it bizarre that some men react with *anger* when a woman rejects them, even politely. To me anger implies you thought you were entitled to the thing that was denied to you. I can’t imagine feeling that way about a stranger I find attractive. In my lower self-esteem moments I have responded (inwardly) with shame, self-hatred, depression, and a feeling that I was unattractive. I.e., I directed all of the negative feelings on myself. Not once in a million years would it have occurred to me to be indignant that the other person didn’t find me attractive. Sometimes, instead of feeling a healthy amount of short term disappointment and moving on, I took it as a referendum on my attractiveness at that moment, which it wasn’t. But never did I feel anger. The concept is so alien to me that I will never understand it. It’s one of the few irreducible differences between men and women that I don’t think I can ever understand. Of course, not all men respond this way. Many react the way I do. I am only speaking of the ones who do.

Linguist, philosopher, lover of history, wordhound, 21 year New Yorker, searching for meaning in the universe

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